THE POWER OF SAYING 'I AM SORRY'

-

It is true that no two individuals are the same, as a result of factors that has strongly contributed to our individual differences. One of such factors is family background/upbringing and it is one of the strongest factors that has contributed in shaping our behaviour.
In the past and in recent times, many marriages have collapsed, some in seperation, divorce and some leading a the death of a partner. This has happened because of how individual differences were managed by some  married couples. 
Marital conflict is normal in marriage, because of the inevitable individual differences that occassionally q1 among married couples. Conflicts in marriage should not be allowed to escalate beyond normal, to avoid seperation of couples in marriage, divorce or death of a partner, as the case maybe.

This brings us to the topic of this message, THE POWER OF SAYING 'I AM SORRY'. The use of the phrase, 'I AM SORRY' have saved millions of marriages in the past, recent times and still counting. Some of the offensive behaviours we exhibit towards our spouse in marriage is linked to our family background/upbringing. This is because, family background strongly contributes in shaping our behavioural pattern.
However, we cannot completely stop offence from occuring in marriage, but we can prevent the offence from escalating beyond our control with these three letter words, 'I AM SORRY'. It is a powerful phrase that has the ability to soften the heart of our spouse to forgive us when we offend them. Saying the word 'I AM SORRY' when you offend your spouse, can open the door for renewal of friendship with your spouse. Saying 'I AM SORRY' has the capacity to fix your relationship with your spouse quickly, get the both of you talking again and feeling comfortable with each other after an offence.
Saying 'I AM SORRY' shows that you value and cherish your relationship with your spouse and want it to continue. Saying 'I AM SORRY' is healthy for marriage. It can reopen the door of the heart of an offended spouse and restore the flow of affection between couples. Saying 'I AM SORRY' has the capacity to sustain marriage, no matter the frequency of offence committed. 
To save ourselves from unhappy and regretable marriage experiences like seperation, divorce, death of partner or single parenthood, married couples are encouraged to often say 'I AM SORRY as many times as they offend their partners, to avoid escalating marital conflict in their marriage. 
If you learn to say 'i am sorry' whenever you offend your spouse, you will witness the power of saying 'I AM SORRY' in your marriage as highlighted below.

THE POWER OF SAYING 'I AM SORRY':

1. Saying 'i am sorry' restores friendship in marriage.

2. Saying 'i am sorry' is a very fast healing pill that can heal wounds created in the heart by an offence.

3. Saying 'i am sorry' passes a message that the offence committed was not delibrate.

4. Saying 'i am sorry' lubricates the heart of the offended to start flowing in love after an offence.

5. Saying 'i am sorry' opens the door for a second chance.

6. Saying 'i am sorry' renews trust.

7. Saying 'i am sorry' calms down the temper of the person offended.

8. Saying 'i am sorry' is a sign that the offender wants the relationship to continue. Though not always the case.

9. Saying 'i am sorry' fast tracks reconciliation.

10. Saying 'i am sorry' erases the thought of inviting a third party.

11. Saying 'i am sorry' restores emotional connection between couples.

12. Saying 'i am sorry' softens the heart of an offended partner to let go.

The three letter words 'i am sorry' can do much more than you have just read. The power of 'i am sorry' lies on the geninuiness of the apology. Consistent repetition of same old offence towards your spouse can weaken the power of 'I AM SORRY'. This is because your spouse will doubt if you were really sorry the very first day you apologised for that particular offence.
Some married men and women use only gift items to apologize to their partner. This might be a sign of pride and may not be affective to mend a broken heart. If you must use gift items to apologize to your partner, it will be more effective if accompanied with a verbal apology like 'I AM SORRY'. A genuine remorseful spouse, naturally will always want to express how sorry he or she is, when he or she offends his or her partner and would always want to convince and reassure his or her partner beyond reasonable doubt, that the offence committed was not delibrate and will not be repeated again. 

Married couples should understand the power of these three letter words 'I AM SORRY' and develope the habit of using it, anytime they offend their partners
Remember, these three magical words 'I AM SORRY have saved millions of marriages from seperation, divorce or even death of partner. 
Haven read this message, the ball is now on your court.
Learn to say 'I AM SORRY', that the wine of your marriage may remain sweet and fresh.

Written & Published By:
BRO. ALIGWEKWE NNAMDI

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

WILL THE NAME OF YOUR CHURCH GUARANTEE SALVATION?

-
Image
 I may be a member of the Catholic church but yet i do not live a holy life that will qualify me to recieve the body of Christ any day i attend Holy Mass. I may be a member of the Redeem Christian Church but yet i have not been redeemed. I may be a member of the Living Faith Church, but yet i am not living the faith. I may say i attend Winners Chapel but yet i am not a winner. I may be a member of the Deeper Life Church, but my life is not deep in Christ. I may be a member of Mountain of Fire Church, but my fire has gone down. I may be a member of Christ Embassy, but yet i have not secured visa to Heaven. I may be a member of the Chosen church, but yet i do not live a life that shows that i have been chosen. I may be a member of the Assembly of God Church, but yet i avoid the assembly of God's children. I may be a member of the Sabbath Church, but yet i do not keep the sabbath day holy. I may be a member of the Cherubim and Seraphim, but yet I can neither sing nor dance for the Lor
Read more

CAN GOD EVER FORGIVE ME AGAIN?

-
Image
Have you done something that you think is unforgivable? Beloved, cry no more because God has not condemned you yet. The only group of persons that has been judged by God is satan and his fellow fallen angels. Be reminded that satan is the one that keeps refreshing your past sins in your mind, to make you feel condemned like him, when God has not yet passed judgement on you or condemned you for your sins. Beloved, if you have made huge errors or committed shameful sins in the past, such that you feel and think they can never be forgiven by God, then this message is for you.  This message is designed to seperate you from those satanic voices that keeps whispering into your mind, saying ' GOD CAN NEVER FORGIVE YOU AGAIN '. Beloved, you have to know that the aim of these satanic voices is to keep refreshing in your minds, memories of your past sins or mistakes, to make you live with guilt and condemnation for the rest of your life. Do not forget, satan has been judged a
Read more

UNDERSTANDING BRIBERY AND CORRUPTION AND HOW TO GET OUT OF IT

-
Image
Bibery and corruption is a global issue and it seems to have been institutionalized in many organizations all over the world. In recent times, political leaders, national security agencies and tax collectors of nations are the most accused in connection with bribery and corruption. This has made the society to take their eyes off other individuals, organisations who secretly indulge in bribery and corruption. Bribery and corruption has been in practice for more than two thousand (2000 BD) years ago before the death of Christ. This is true because the book of 1Samuel 8:1-3 reported that the two sons of Samuel, Joel and Abiah who were both judges, accepted bribe and perverted justice. 1Samuel 8:1-3 " And it came to pass, when Samuel was old, that he made his sons judges over Israel. Now the name of his fristborn was Joel; and the name of second, Abiah: they were judges in Beersheba. And his sons walked not in his ways, but turned aside after after lucre, and took bribes and perver
Read more